Tuesday, October 12, 2010

The Empowerment of Knowing Why Things Happen For a Reason

And What You Have Done Good or Bad Has a Purpose

Yesterday, I wrote a pretty negative note tho some of you wrote me and felt it hit home. That is not who I strive to be though. It took me talking to my coach Troy Byer to ultimately get me out of that negativity. I have to thank her for that. In our talk, she helped me realize the very thing that the topic of this note states. This past week has been a whirlwind for me. Without going into details, I did some things that I felt were out of character for me. Now, I am back in GA--- back to the real me which feels great. Looking back on what I did now after talking it out I realize there was a lot of value in what happened. It's much better to look at life experiences that way than the way I was for the past couple days. I know what I don't like, do like, who I want to be and who I don't want to be. I also know what I won't do ever again.

I can now help other people when they even give what I did a second thought. First thing is, I realize I need to create calculated breaks for myself when I get burned out with all that do instead of spontaneous getaways substituted as a break. Sometimes we meet someone that we really need at that moment to help us get over something we probably couldn't in years. In other words, I realize that certain people are truly brought together for a reason at times. I understand how using the word no is so valuable and how destructive it can be if you allow yourself to be afraid to use it. I realize I am a strong woman that can deal with maybe more than many in this world especially being blessed having such amazingly loving people in my life. I realize I have a purpose for others within myself and my own daunting experiences. I realize people look up to me and I need to honor that privilege. I realize what is most important is that I don't have to be perfect because I am a human being. In my experiences, I can't judge but only love myself and others even in the existent imperfections. I realize this recent experience could potentially protect me from something incredibly destructive down the road. This experience is most importantly bringing me closer to God. I realize He is the only one that can really hold me close and protect me-- I just have to allow him to do so. But even in times I don't he still works hard to do so. That's beautiful.

I have found out so much about myself that I don't want to get too much into detail-- but know today it's beautiful things not bad. I can't dwell on my unfavorable thoughts and thanks to friends and family I can stand strong on that. God gave me these gifts and I really have to be grateful for that. After I wrote the note I did last night, I received uplifting emails from good people, good friends that I love. And even phone calls. I didn't know that people cared that much-- thank you. You didn't even ask to know any details you just wanted to know I was okay. I am okay, I will be okay and I have all the support and love I need not to be. This just proves that I have to continue my journey on loving myself and understanding that I will mess up sometimes but that doesn't make me a bad person. It's makes what we all are--- HUMAN.

"There truly is a reason for everything that happens in our lives, it's our responsibility to figure it out and embrace it."

With Love,


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  1. This is the Marika that motivates me. It's a blessing within itself to realize God when He's working in your life; as opposed to just after the fact. Sometimes God removes what we make think is everything away from us that we think means everything. Sometimes, I believe, just to show us all we need is Him. It's impossible not to give Him glory knowing it was was only his Grace, Mercy and Love that allowed us to stand and tell our story. You can't have a testimony without a test.

  2. Marika I so love your authenticity. It's what makes you very unique. I loved the fact that you were willing to use your own real life example of what was not working and what you learned from it to teach a valuable point. Very few people actually do that. Keep sharing the love, we all need it.

  3. I'm glad to hear that you are okay. We learn from our mistakes and we will make many more! No one is perfect and no one will ever be perfect except for Jesus! You are young, beautiful and talented and don't let anyone else tell you otherwise. Always love yourself whether or not others love you! There is always one person in your life that loves you! Well, maybe 2 or 3 or more, but remember, Jesus loves you and so do I. Keep up your good work and strive to help others and you will be successful in everything that you do.