"You want people in your life that compliment and support you, not ones that are out to fix you because ultimately only you can fix you."

"I focus on controlling myself instead of others around me b/c I know that is impossible & the only way to get what I want & need in life."

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"The best time to keep going is when it gets really tough, most people stop so that puts you at the head of the this game we call life."

"Thinking positively will push u to do positive things which will lead to positive life events, thinking negatively will do the opposite."

"When you see beautiful things, it's just a reflection of the beauty in you be/c everything ultimately was created by one being." myquote

"When you see beautiful things, it's just a reflection of the beauty in you be/c everything ultimately was created by one being." myquote

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He is Not Bad but He is Not Good Either

At Least Probably Not Good for You

Since my last article about “courting” and how men can be hurting their chances with a girl before he even gets the girl, I decided to semi jump back into the dating scene. Then, I was electing to be single. I think I may jump back out into singlehood again. I am not ready because I still find myself wanting to settle on things that maybe I shouldn’t due to my own fears of never finding the one. I have to realize, I deserve that—a man perfect for me. And this last whirlwind, which is what I would like to call it, has helped me come to terms with the fact that there are men out there that are good men but not good for me. Often times, I put it back on myself that maybe I am not good for them, which is wrong thinking. It doesn’t help with your perception of yourself which happens to be pretty darn important. However, I am not saying to think “It’s the other person’s fault” is right either. It’s just better than thinking poorly of yourself especially if you are in the process and journey of learning to love yourself to its full capacity. And there truly is someone for everyone. I know this because yesterday while on facebook I saw this post that I totally thought was a quack about how this couple’s open relationship is pure and secure. The woman seemed to love this concept her man has come up with tho someone like me would not have but that’s for another blog. My point is, that proved my previous statement.

I have found especially lately that a guy that does nice things for me is a guy I would like to date almost ignoring other components that are important for me to consider making him my significant other. Subconsciously due to experiences, I am programmed to think that there aren’t that many guys that do nice things. I mistakably think that a guy doing such nice things moreso than the average guy that he wants to commit or be with me and that may not be the case either. Nor should I think I need to be with him. Ultimately, though there comes a time a woman gets tired of the “bad guy” and just wants someone genuinely kind. But what do you do with a guy that is so amazingly kind but gives you mixed signals? Do you keep trying because he is so nice or do you move on to the next one in hopes he will be just as kind or better? Do you wait for his mindset or feelings to change? Then you think… “Does perfect for you even exist?” I mean really deep down we all know the answers to these questions but will still somehow feel some uncertainty. If we become more confident, occupied with other things, sure of ourselves, and trust in God then the answer to all of those will result in moving on for someone even better. Don’t worry, I am also telling myself this very thing as I write this article for my readers.

I have seen people have it all in a relationship. It’s not too good to be true and when time allots for it, it will come. It’s something we all must believe in order for it to happen. If someone else can have it then we can too. I mean what makes them different? Luck? God likes them better? I can’t even try to believe that anymore. We don’t really have to just dream of this idea when we lay our heads on our pillows at night. With each guy now, because I think I am getting closer I have decided to write down a list of pros and cons on him. We all fit as a puzzle together. A blunt edge of a puzzle won’t fit with another blunt edged piece of the puzzle, kind of like the trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. I know not everyone is perfect but there is someone out there great for me. That list will help me determine what things I must have and others I can let go in that person I am currently dating. This way I don’t stay in a situation that I am not completely happy in or don’t pursue someone that is just not that into me. Most of us, including myself just write a general list on a man that does not currently exist. So if you are reading this with the same uncertainty I discuss, start writing down your list on the guy or girl you are seeing now. This exercise can apply to men as well.

All Content © 2010 Marika Dye

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"When you give freely to people genuinely to see them happy, then God will bless you with happiness in return. Just let leave it to Him."

"In life there are always warning signs that we recognize later, they key is to recognize them now to have a better life in every aspect."

"If you strongly believe and want good people around you then good people will be around you." thatmarika

In life you will meet people that will help you w/no return, keep in mind those are sincere people that you should give back to in some way.

believes that everything u want in life is in an abundance, the issue is our programmed thinking that it isn't, so then it isn't. illusions perception

It's such a beautiful thing when u spend time w/someone that shows u how much they care about u instead of simply telling u. tlc